I know because I felt the same way.
I was a busy working mom who loved wine, carbs and hated my body. I tried to diet only for it to work and then fail. I tried to go to the gym but I found all I was losing was time and energy, not weight. I tried to count calories but I was always freaking hungry...and really, I couldn't do that much math before every darn meal.
I thought low fat was the answer so I tried that. Then I heard about no carb so I ate a lot of protein and fat. But I freaking love carbs. So that didn't last long.
I used to talk about it with everyone, asking them what they did, what solutions they found, what worked for them. And you know what? Everyone was just as confused. They found things that worked for a while but then they didn't, so they tried something else. Rinse and Repeat.
Which made me more confused. And frustrated. And thinking, is there really no solution to that really works?